could use some advice

[BF2slut]

well i got no one else to go to for this situation.. my parents would probally kick me out of their house if they knew, can't tell friends because its way to personal and it might get around to the wrong people and can't talk to anybody else because i don't want people to know i'm involved with this kind of stuff.

so thats just my little intro of why i came here. I don't even feel that comfortable telling YOU guys this because the internet really isn't the place for this drama...

but anyways I was chillin at my friends crib and we were doing dope together. We both snort "h" we're not addicted that being said we don't shoot up. All is going well until an "acquaintance" shows up with a ****ing needle and is preparing to shoot up. Now even though im pretty uncomfortable this isn't my house. I don't even know this guy that well I dunno if hes addicted or what hes like at all, so I just go with minding my own business and let him prepare his shit. I step outside and thats when the shit hits the fan. My friends mom gets home off her work break and yelling ensues because the acquaintance isn't supposed to be there. Acquaintance leaves and I bounce for a little bit cause the mom is yelling. Apparantly that asshole left his needle on the bathroom floor and the mom finds it. Mom thinks its her sons and he gets kicked out. The acquaintance owned up to it but it didn't really help because my friend had a bruise on his arm and his mom assumed it was a hit.

So I feel like crap because he doesn't deserve this kind of shit.. and I dunno what to do. Do I go up to his mom and tell her that I saw the whole thing and it was really the other guys needle? Or am I just supposed to let my friend roam around with no money and be staying at other peoples places?

i dunno what to do so im hoping you guys can give me some advice of what to do. I really want to talk about it with his mother but im worried she'll get mad at me or something.

but please don't preach to me about the dope though. I know.

 

[Homie]

You should tell her.

 

[Que-Ever]

find out who would be in more trouble as soon as you can, wither your friend or the aqquaintince. Seriously if the other dude would get worse than kicked out (domestic violence?) just leave the situation alone, but if the other guy's parents really don't care or anything, tell your friend's mom.

 

[Nat Turner]

A) Never do dope again, it's probably not worth it(even if you think it is). That's just my advice. Although it might be hard for you to stop for various reasons.

B) Do you want to keep this friend? If so, tell his mom exactly what happened. Also, it would weigh less on your conscience to do so. Don't be scared about her reaction, because you'd be helping her by telling her. Of course she'd be emotional. Just remember, you're the messenger.

If you don't care about any of this, don't.

Personally, I would tell her, because I stick up for my friends. Communication is always good, especially in situations like this.

 

[Homie]

A) Never do dope again, it's probably not worth it(even if you think it is). That's just my advice. Although it might be hard for you to stop for various reasons.

B) Do you want to keep this friend? If so, tell his mom exactly what happened. Also, it would weigh less on your conscience to do so. Don't be scared about her reaction, because you'd be helping her by telling her. Of course she'd be emotional. Just remember, you're the messenger.

If you don't care about any of this, don't.

Personally, I would tell her. Communication is always good, especially in situations like this.

You couldn't have said it better.

:cheers:

 

[Qonfused]

Yeah, I would tell her. And don't do drugs, wtf.
For support, click on the link in my sig.

 

[BF2slut]

A) Never do dope again, it's probably not worth it(even if you think it is). That's just my advice. Although it might be hard for you to stop for various reasons.

B) Do you want to keep this friend? If so, tell his mom exactly what happened. Also, it would weigh less on your conscience to do so. Don't be scared about her reaction, because you'd be helping her by telling her. Of course she'd be emotional. Just remember, you're the messenger.

If you don't care about any of this, don't.

Personally, I would tell her, because I stick up for my friends. Communication is always good, especially in situations like this.

Yes of course I want to keep this friend. I haven't seen or talked to him since and i'm actually kind of worried and feel bad. For some reason I feel like this might have been my fault, but then I ask my self why and I don't know why.

It's not that im scared about her reaction im just confused because would my friend WANT me to tell her, or would he NOT want me to tell her. Thats where im stuck..

if you want we can talk about my drug use later, i'm more worried about this situation right now though.

 

[xLostx]

drugs are bad mmkay, i'd try telling her that it wasnt actually the son but she may just think you're trying to cover up for him cuz you're his friend. it could go either way but its worth a shot. just dont own up to saying you used drugs

 

[Nat Turner]

It's not that im scared about her reaction im just confused because would my friend WANT me to tell her, or would he NOT want me to tell her. Thats where im stuck..

Ok. There are two approaches:

A) Tell her first. If your friend gets upset for some strange reason, tell him you were just trying to stick up for him, and that your intentions were good. There is a small chance his situation might get worse, but the chances are much greater it will improve. If it does get worse, just apologize a lot to him. This would slightly risk disrupting your friendship if you are bad at handling conflicts.

B) Talk to your friend first, ask him if he wants you to tell. Just do what he says then. If he doesn't want you to, you'll have to respect his wishes, but this will probably be worse for your friend.

If you really care about the well-being of your friend, go with option A. If you care more about your friendship, choose option B. But either way works fine and will most likely produce the same result, so don't worry about it. This is just a miscommunication that can be sorted out no matter what. If you can't decide, just randomly pick one and go with it. It's not really a big deal.

Just doing nothing is the worst thing you can do. At the very least, talk to your friend about it.

 

[IonizeMyAtoms]

What ever happens to him, or this aquaintance, or you, too ****ing bad.
Heroin? Get a brain man, seriously
You're obviously a relatively smart person. No sympathy at all.

 

[Nat Turner]

What ever happens to him, or this aquaintance, or you, too ****ing bad.
Heroin? Get a brain man, seriously
You're obviously a relatively smart person. No sympathy at all.

He was not asking sympathy; he was asking for advice. Of course this whole situation could obviously be averted if he and his friend didn't do drugs, but I think he's smart enough to make that decision for himself.

 

[BF2slut]

I can't get ahold of him. I don't even know where he is :|

no cellphone - nothing I can't even give him money for food

 

[Qonfused]

He was not asking sympathy; he was asking for advice. Of course this whole situation could obviously be averted if he and his friend didn't do drugs, but I think he's smart enough to make that decision for himself.

Obviously not: he's doing heroin.

 

[Nat Turner]

I can't get ahold of him. I don't even know where he is :|

no cellphone - nothing I can't even give him money for food

If you think by waiting the situation can get worse, go talk to his mom ASAP.

 

[Nat Turner]

Obviously not: he's doing heroin.

There's a reason why people do heroin. And it's not stupidity.

 

[BF2slut]

Obviously not: he's doing heroin.

heroin isn't reserved for certain types of people. Doesn't matter if you're white or black, smart or dumb, tall or short..

it's as easy as hanging out with the wrong people.

 

[IonizeMyAtoms]

it's as easy as hanging out with the wrong people.

Yeah, people like you
Seriously, what a stupid thread. Grow up

 

[Nat Turner]

Yeah, people like you
Seriously, what a stupid thread. Grow up

It's better to be understanding than judgemental.

 

[TheSomeone]

I concur with all of Nat's replies.

 

[Qonfused]

There's a reason why people do heroin. And it's not stupidity.

Peer presure? If so, it's a lame excuse. Grow a backbone.

 

[Nat Turner]

Peer presure? If so, it's a lame excuse. Grow a backbone.

Peer pressure, pleasure, caring about the present a lot more than the future, not understanding or caring about consequences, addiction, to name a few. It's not about growing a backbone, it's about weighing the costs and benefits.

note:

I've never done any drugs, and lack personal experience, so I might be wrong.

 

[Cormeh]

Only had to read the first post.

Get off the f*cking drugs.

 

[h00dlum]

Heroin is the worst drug there is, ive done alot of shit before but i will never touch that shit...

 

[The Monkey]

She kicked out her own son? What kind of a mother would do that?

 

[jabberwock95]

Let me repeat virtually everyone, get off drugs. There is no possible way it is worth what it will (or has) cost you.

As for advice, i'm afraid I go the opposite way to most people. I don't think it is really your problem to deal with. Whether he was snorting or shooting up he is still on heroin, so I doubt his mum is going to be thrilled either way. In fact I doubt they would even see a difference, even if they believe you.

Sounds selfish, but it could make your personal situation a lot worse. You said yourself, your parents could kick you out aswell as his not letting him back. So who does it help?

But in the end, its yourself you have to decide for. I find that when people ask for advice they are most often looking for someone else to confirm what they want to do isn't a terrible idea.

Well, theres the other side.

 

[ZeeM]

She kicked out her own son? What kind of a mother would do that?

This is the US. After the age of 18 you are practially considered as a foreign entity and not a member of the family.

Or this is just what I concluded to...

 

[Beerdude26]

Peer pressure, pleasure, caring about the present a lot more than the future, not understanding or caring about consequences, addiction, to name a few. It's not about growing a backbone, it's about weighing the costs and benefits.

note:

I've never done any drugs, and lack personal experience, so I might be wrong.

Weighing the costs and the benefits? If only my brothers did that

Well, they would have started anyway (weed) and now they're addicted. I almost laugh at them for being so stupid. A few of my friends do it too, and I laugh at them too, although I find it odd why someone would want to destroy his body (If someone is going to come in saying drugs don't have any negative effects, you're even dumber than I thought ).

Anyways, stay away from drugs while you still can. It's a cliché saying, but god is it true.

*Puts on badge "Will never be a drug addict, PC ftw \0/"*

 

[bvasgm]

Quit now, before you end up like Mr. Snuffles.

 

[Muffin Man]

I agree with the fact that, just don't do drugs. but I really don't have any advice that hasnt already been said but there is something I would like to say. DOn't ****ing rag on him, he is asking for advice. I am not saying you shouldnt like tell him drugs are bad or anything but what the hell man. I'm guessing you've been a dumbass before, we all have, and if you havent.. well live a little, god damn man. And at least he is asking for advice, if not on the drug issue. thats all i have to say about that right now..

 

[kaf11]

i know you dont want to get a rant about the drug use, but i think that you should just know this:

snorting "h" is just as dangerous as injecting it.

 

[BF2slut]

Weighing the costs and the benefits? If only my brothers did that

Well, they would have started anyway (weed) and now they're addicted. I almost laugh at them for being so stupid. A few of my friends do it too, and I laugh at them too, although I find it odd why someone would want to destroy his body (If someone is going to come in saying drugs don't have any negative effects, you're even dumber than I thought ).

Anyways, stay away from drugs while you still can. It's a cliché saying, but god is it true.

*Puts on badge "Will never be a drug addict, PC ftw \0/"*

Well I don't understand why you think they are addicted to weed.

Weed doesn't destroy the body but harder drugs will (drugs like coke and heroin). I'm not addicted to H, I do it once in awhile because its expensive and you run out fast. I've never woke up the next day after doing it and felt like I just had to do anything to get it.

I'm broke right now anyways, being broke is my anti-drug.

I plan on talking to the mom in person later tonight, wish me luck. I really hope she'll decide to let her son come back home.

 

[Angry Lawyer]

Weed does destroy the mind, to an extent, though. I'm told, due to some inherited problems, if I were to puff on weed regularly, I'd have a 10% chance of developing schitzophrenia, as opposed to the 2% average people have. And, although at a lesser extent to tobacco (I assume), it still rots your lungs. Unless you eat it as a cake.

-Angry Lawyer

 

[short recoil]

Doing heroin once will have damaged your body.

I have studied health and fitness for several years and when people say drugs are bad there is a reason.

And i don't know why the hell people spend the money they do on it......

I mean a few grams of heroin costs what £40? (
You could do a days paintballing for that, which is a lot more fun than sitting in a toilet feeling slightly euphoric, and healthier to boot.

 

[Nat Turner]

Weed does destroy the mind, to an extent, though. I'm told, due to some inherited problems, if I were to puff on weed regularly, I'd have a 10% chance of developing schitzophrenia, as opposed to the 2% average people have. And, although at a lesser extent to tobacco (I assume), it still rots your lungs. Unless you eat it as a cake.

-Angry Lawyer

I believe it kills your lungs even faster than tobacco because you normally don't smoke weed with a filter. But of course, you smoke cigarettes at a much greater frequency, so they end up being more damaging.

 

[Nat Turner]

Doing heroin once will have damaged your body.

I have studied health and fitness for several years and when people say drugs are bad there is a reason.

And i don't know why the hell people spend the money they do on it......

I mean a few grams of heroin costs what £40? (
You could do a days paintballing for that, which is a lot more fun than sitting in a toilet feeling slightly euphoric, and healthier to boot.

Yeah paintball is so much more better even if you just look at the cost.

 

[Last One In]

There are many things that damage the body beyond all repair, such as listening to disco. but everyone has their addictions *hides disco records*, all of which are as hard to break as the next.

 

[xcellerate]

"we're not addicted"
-famous words from the addict

 

[RakuraiTenjin]

There's a reason why people do heroin. And it's not stupidity.

I know an addict and it certainly is in their case and all of their druggie friends.

 

[bvasgm]

Weed does hurt your body. In addition to the things already said, it damages your ability to convert short term memory into long term memory. Something to do with damaging the hippocampus. (The area of the brain responsible for memory)

I'll say it again. Quit now, before you end up like Mr. Snuffles.

 

[short recoil]

I'll say it again. Quit now, before you end up like Mr. Snuffles.

Btw i'd just like to say, i have seen a heroin addict that actually looked remarkably simmilar to mr snuffles, bulging eyes, bulbous head against a thin pale body...not nice.
He was called dave, he visisted my school with a rehab group to tell us the dangers of drugs, that was year 11, they visited again in 6th form, they told us that dave had died.