Friends who just push you off?

[Qonfused]

I was just informed of this "get together" today that happened last night.

Most of the group of friends I run with had a party last night. I don't understand. I've been friends with these guys for, like, two years and not even one word about it. I've recently talked to a couple of them too. I just don't get it. Why would they do this? I just went to one of their birthdays and everything went fine.

 

[Que-Ever]

maybe someone who doesn't liek you was there or something.

 

[PvtRyan]

Or this was a party with dancing pirate parrots and they know how distinctly you hate dancing pirate parrots.

 

[Dekstar]

Just think of it as they were doing one big circle jerk and they didn't invite you because they knew you weren't gay.

 

[JFry]

They were doing blow and didn't want any straight edgers to lecture them.

 

[RakuraiTenjin]

I was just informed of this "get together" today that happened last night.

Most of the group of friends I run with had a party last night. I don't understand. I've been friends with these guys for, like, two years and not even one word about it. I've recently talked to a couple of them too. I just don't get it. Why would they do this? I just went to one of their birthdays and everything went fine.

Ask them to let you know where the party's are at, simple as that. If you don't regularly party they probably assumed you like to stay in.


Trust me I've had a longtime friend ask me the same as your situation is because for this town I'm usually the go to guy for what's going on around here. They're like "Why don't you guys ever invite me to go party with you guys." I let him know everybody just asks and finds out themselves. Now he calls me up just like everyone else when we organize.

So just ask and find out man. "What's going down tonight? Gonna throw a kickback or party soon or what?"

 

[Stigmata]

I know the feeling all too well.

 

[evil^milk]

^ qft.

 

[Idonno >_<]

It happens, don't take it personally

At least you still have me <3

~Ikerous

 

[Absinthe]

Can't say I've had that problem, but I have a friend who does.

I don't know what you're like, but this guy just doesn't come out as often as all the other guys. I'd wager around 50% or slightly less. Everybody likes him, we hang out often, but he's just not there for a lot of the nights out or at parties.

We have our own forum (that he owns, actually) and the topic always at the top of the page is "What are we doing tonight?" and it's pretty much updated daily. So if there's any plans, you read it up and hit the town. But he doesn't read it, nor does he call anybody. So when he asks why he wasn't notified, we either respond "We didn't think you'd be up for it" or "Read your own ****ing forum, dude!".

Even then, half the times we call him, he can't come out either because he's not in the mood or because he's right in the middle of working on concept art for $$$. The latter can be understandable. The former? Not so much.

 

[evil^milk]

It happens, don't take it personally

At least you still have me <3

~Ikerous

^_^

 

[Dalamari]

I was just informed of this "get together" today that happened last night.

Most of the group of friends I run with had a party last night. I don't understand. I've been friends with these guys for, like, two years and not even one word about it. I've recently talked to a couple of them too. I just don't get it. Why would they do this? I just went to one of their birthdays and everything went fine.

That's pretty much my whole summer right there, unless I just show up at a friends house they don't bother telling me if something is going down

 

[DiSTuRbEd]

Just move on, not worth the time asking about...

 

[Slacker]

Yeah, chances are they were just doing something that you were uninterested in. Example: I have a group of about seven-ish friends, and we hang out pretty much every weekend. But some of us have differing interests, so if me and a few guys want to play D&D or something one night, we don't invite him, knowing he'll be bored anyway. And we don't tell him about it, why bother? It's probably not a big deal.

 

[KagePrototype]

I was just informed of this "get together" today that happened last night.

Most of the group of friends I run with had a party last night. I don't understand. I've been friends with these guys for, like, two years and not even one word about it. I've recently talked to a couple of them too. I just don't get it. Why would they do this? I just went to one of their birthdays and everything went fine.

Couldn't you have just asked them why?

 

[SimonomiS]

Well, obviously they hate you and are trying to destroy the friendship.

Seriously, what's so bad about just asking them why?

 

[RakuraiTenjin]

Asking why is going to make somebody uncomfortable (if not you then them, because even if they didn't intend to they realize they made you feel left out)

Just ask when the next time is everyone's planning to have a kickback or whatever. If they say they don't know, tell them to let you know when they do.

If it happens after that, that'll be a hint.

 

[Adidajs]

know exactly how you feel. happened to me this past school year. some of the guys i first became friends with starting school this last year would do all sorts of things and not tell me about it. i basically stopped hanging out with them.

 

[Fliko]

Everytime I cross the path of another teenager who doesn't know me, they stay silent and walk very fast as if I might suddenly try to eat them or something.

So, I can't relate to the party thing, BUT I can relate to friends pushing you off.

 

[RakuraiTenjin]

How have you acted before when partying with them?

Are you stingy? Do you never pitch in for the bottles?

Or without even realizing it are you a buzzkill?

Just throwing things out. Already made some other posts, it's most likely the other things but like I said if it happens again it might be one of the above situations.

 

[Shamrock]

I was just informed of this "get together" today that happened last night.

Most of the group of friends I run with had a party last night. I don't understand. I've been friends with these guys for, like, two years and not even one word about it. I've recently talked to a couple of them too. I just don't get it. Why would they do this? I just went to one of their birthdays and everything went fine.

HAHAHA. That happens to me all the time. Live with it.

 

[ailevation]

They didn't have an extra ho for you to screw with =(. Sorry you had to be the one missing out. OUCH!

or

Not enough weed to go around, fiends get greedy after awhile.

 

[Geogaddi]

Trust Me Here. They Weren't Partying. They Were Planning Your Murder. The Time Has Come To Get Them Before They Get You. I'd Reccomend Inserting A Small Knife Between The Second And Third Vertabrae. That Way Is A Lot Neater And Cleaner Than Slashing The Throat. After That, Burn The Clothes And Leave The Bodies To Be Eaten By Wild Hogs. If You Don't Know Where To Find Wild Hogs, Crocodiles Or Any Large Carnivore Will Do. Good Luck, And God Speed.

capslocklol

 

[mortiz]

I was just informed of this "get together" today that happened last night.

Most of the group of friends I run with had a party last night. I don't understand. I've been friends with these guys for, like, two years and not even one word about it. I've recently talked to a couple of them too. I just don't get it. Why would they do this? I just went to one of their birthdays and everything went fine.

Don't worry, it's happend to me too mate. My friends all went out once and I wasn't even informed. They came up with the good old excuse that "So and So was meant to tell you!" and when you ask that person they say someone else was meant to tell you. Eventually everyone just says they thought you didn't want to come. It's just one of those things.

 

[kirovman]

That's the opposite of what used to happen to me.

Everyone called me to try and make me go out, but I'd just hide under a matress fort. I was 20 at that time.

 

[Vegeta897]

That's the opposite of what used to happen to me.

Everyone called me to try and make me go out, but I'd just hide under a matress fort. I was 20 at that time.

No, the direct opposite of this situation would be:

Your name is Qlearheaded, your ENEMIES did NOT have a party, but called you about it, and you went, and it made you HAPPY that there was NOT a party, and you DIDN'T post about it.

 

[kirovman]

That also happened to me, but I didn't feel the readers would have appreciated it.