a distorted vision of myself

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lately i have found some things about myself that have gotten me very depressed. i dont know what term to call it, i think it's dismorphia, but i dunno. basically what happens is i look at myself in the mirror like i always have something wrong and somehow i think something is weird about me and i can't get over it because im confused mentally at my own self image of what is "true to me," which is the "right" me (how i've always looked at myself) which is probably false to others or what is the "truth that my mind creates," which is what i refuse to accept and which is probably true to otehrs... meh i feel so shet what should i do to feel better, because i'm feeling so hopeless... god i even got to the point i look at others and look at the bad physical things they have and take comfort by "knowing" i am superior, when clearly i am not... i do not look at the good others have, i don't look at the good in me... and it's starting to affect everyone around me, somtehing i do not want, it's made me so hopeless inside and i've lost all credibility in myself

sorry i've just got no one else to share this with

 

[PickledGecko]

sorry i've just got no one else to share this with

I'm no expert, but could that be the root of the problem?

 

[Qwert93]

Do you have any trophies or medals? Sometimes, if you look at them, you'll feel better about yourself.

 

[Thread]

I'm no expert, but could that be the root of the problem?

maybe cuz i've become so self-centered i only look at myself and obsess all over anything i hve

 

[Wraith]

hahahah APRIL FOOLS


good one!

 

[Thread]

i wish :dozey:

 

[PickledGecko]

I was thinking more along the lines of, not having someone to share your unhappyness lets your unhappyness grow to the point that it consumes you. Maybe if you could open up to someone, the discussion would help you realise that everyone gets insecure and that your not alone and that there are people who care.

 

[nick_t]

hahahah APRIL FOOLS


good one!

hahaha... omg saying "april fools" after serious things is the funniest. today at school, people would be late to class and go "april fools" or there'd be a test and the class would say "april fools" only to discover that there actually is a test.

 

[eatbugs]

ever considered real therapy if it really is that bad?

 

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nah, i'm probably making a huge deal out of this when it's probably something no one notices. but there's still that doubt that haunts me. meh i'll just let go and think happier thoughts

 

[Doppelgofer]

an internet forum is probably the last place you want to tell people about something like that. to me, an issue such as that is very personal and i'd talk to someone close to me or someone professional

 

[Thread]

true, but you don't understand, this isn't hte place it used to be

 

[Doppelgofer]

doesn't change the fact that you're posting a massive personal problem of yours on an internet forum...this could be the FRIENDLIEST MOST LOVELIEST forum on the ENTIRE internet but it still consists of people you truely don't know

i would never post anything absolutley personal on an internet forum because i'd feel slightly vulnerable to be honest

 

[Tr0n]

Yea he is right...it's fine to post something about a relationship...family problems etc...but something like that you need to talk to your parents or close friends about.They can help you more than us...but don't worry this forum is very friendly so you won't be made fun of and so on.

 

[PickledGecko]

That may be true, but maybe he's shy, or worried about the stigma attached to mental health issues. Here he can post anonymously, which is a good first step, although maybe some kind telephone service would be less risky. Here in the UK we have the Samaritans, not sure if you know them, but they are the best sort of people to call in situations like this.

 

[nick_t]

Here in the UK we have the Samaritans, not sure if you know them, but they are the best sort of people to call in situations like this.

I think the US equivalent is Dr. Phil

Oprah: "You have to invest in your future - buy a mountain!"
Dr. Phil: "Absolutely, Oprah!"

Now, "Dr. Phil" has been marketted to the US public as a loving and compassionate uncle figure who's there for advice and mental healing. His show deals with commonplace therapy - nothing serious. However, all his lessons and advices are so obvious - it's staggering! Makes me want to be a therapist.

 

[15357]

I think the US equivalent is Dr. Phil

Oprah: "You have to invest in your future - buy a mountain!"
Dr. Phil: "Absolutely, Oprah!"

Now, "Dr. Phil" has been marketted to the US public as a loving and compassionate uncle figure who's there for advice and mental healing. His show deals with commonplace therapy - nothing serious. However, all his lessons and advices are so obvious - it's staggering! Makes me want to be a therapist.

never heard of dr.phil....... but i've heard of oprah.


how much is the monthly wage for a therapist?

 

[PickledGecko]

The Samaritans are a volunteer organisation that you can phone, email, etc and they will give a sympathetic ear. Its for those people who don’t have anyone they are willing to talk to. They never give advice, I think because the wrong advise can lead to making things worse, in fact I’m not sure if qualified therapists give advise either. But like I say, I’m no expert.

 

[nick_t]

I don't know about their monthly wage but their annual salary can be very high, depending on how good they are. Usually, a prominent psychologist can earn $100 000 easily.