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is it a bad idea to get engaged / married at like, 17 ~ 18?

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Depends ... It's a bad idea to get engaged to your first girlfriend, because she's all you've experienced ... It's easy to think you've found true love... I'd give it at least 2 or 3 years ... if you're still with her, then pop the question. If you're not, move on and keep fishing.

I'm never getting married. I can't be doing with commitment, its useless. Times change, marriage isn't for me.
 
Early to mid-twenties I'd say is the earliest to consider tying the knot.
 
I read the thread title as "ape to get married", and I was like "omfgbbqrox!!11" then I opened the thread and was sorely dissapointed :(
 
My dad got married at 18.

Useless information? Oh yeah.
 
there is a interesting documental that every human being should watch when the word "marriage" pass trough theyr mind

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uz7LrmjjG9Q[/YOUTUBE]

is practically a bible
 
Ah yes, my favorite documentary...much more so than that Meerkat Manor horse hockey...

That was the longest intro Ive ever seen for Married w/Children...
 
there is a interesting documental that every human being should watch when the word "marriage" pass trough theyr mind

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uz7LrmjjG9Q[/YOUTUBE]

is practically a bible

Indeed good sir! :D

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Don't ever get married. That's a good age I think. Just stay with your sweetheart and love her good.

Unless you really need those tax breaks.
 
is it a bad idea to get engaged / married at like, 17 ~ 18?

Thoughts

yes

Horrible idea.

Live with someone for a few years before even engaging.

Don't be a fool.

Don't ever get married. That's a good age I think. Just stay with your sweetheart and love her good.

Unless you really need those tax breaks.

^Pretty much what he said, marriage is mostly pointless. It's not like you need to be married to be commited
 
Yes, it is a terrible idea. You need to be slapped for even thinking that.

But really, not to be mean or anything, I looked at your profile and saw that you're 17, and I just laughed. Not because of your age by itself (I'm only 18), but just because I think getting married that early is a ridiculous idea. Just forget it. You are going to **** up your life completely if you get married right now. Relationships will do many things to a person's mind (like make you think you're ready to get married when you have so much ahead of you). Even if you REALLY think that you and your significant other really have something going on, wait it out. If anything, marriage that early is going to doom the relationship because you're bringing lots of unwanted stress and pressures to a relationship that hasn't had time to stabilize yet.
 
dam I forgot this interview made whit a expert thats practically resumes everything in few words

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSWTVXh_Yns[/YOUTUBE]
 
Depends ... It's a bad idea to get engaged to your first girlfriend, because she's all you've experienced ... It's easy to think you've found true love... I'd give it at least 2 or 3 years ... if you're still with her, then pop the question. If you're not, move on and keep fishing..

true

I'm never getting married. I can't be doing with commitment, its useless. Times change, marriage isn't for me.

I thought differently until i faced the "negative" side of marriage. Times change and People change
 
is it a bad idea to get engaged / married at like, 17 ~ 18?

Thoughts

tip: push her down a flight of stairs, only make it look like an accident


getting married cuz you knocked her up isnt the solution




:E
 
It's an odd situation. I find the Christian-inclined quite often bitch about rising divorce rates everywhere, but they're typically the ones who get married young.

Don't set yourself up in something that should last the rest of your life until you've actually lived.

-Angry Lawyer
 
If you both think you're really ready to get married. Just live with eachother for a few years first, if you're really that good together then it shouldn't hurt your relationship at all.
 
Don't marry before you've lived together for at least two years. Well, make that three, since chemically it's impossible for you to be in love with someone for more than three or four years, and one would assume you'd spend the first six months not living together.
 
Me and the missus' have discussed this, and anything like marriage for us would come after we finish Uni.

Don't rush into something big until you have lived some of your life is my view...
 
+1. if thats true, then i think any possible faith i might have had in god, or the jeudochristian based churches has just died.

Chemical Science =\= Psychology

Psychology wins mostly in this. Theres proof that Psychology has beaten the odds many times in this subject.

We can choose not to be tied to our natural chemical instincts. Otherwise we wouldn't have those old farts who are still in love and happy.
 
My point was that chemical science is not equal to psychology.

While chemicals do influence the way a person thinks to some extent, it's obvious that psychology is an entire separate science and a much more prominent factor in something like a person's love life. It's really stupid to say that a chemical level in the brain will influence someone's thoughts so specifically that they will stop loving someone after a predetermined amount of time. The chemicals will influence basic moods and wants, but they are not entirely responsible for the way a person's mind works.
 
I'm pretty sure he just means rapturous, lusty love. I know plenty of long-married couples who still love each other very much- just a trusting, comfortable kind of love, rather than the passionate, oh-god-I-want-to-f*ck-you-every-waking-moment-of-my-life kind.
 
Now that I will believe to some extent because chemicals are responsible for sexual attraction which a lot of people will perceive as infatuation or "love". But there is never any kind of guarantee about it as in saying that the chemicals will inevitably make someone unattracted to someone after a specified period of time.
 
Yeah, it seems like there's this 'keeping up with the Joneses' meme in marriage where if you're not having sex five times a week until the day you turn 80, something must be wrong. Ask yourself what marriage means to you: do you want to be like a grown-up, are your parents pressuring you into it, does the bible tell you to, etc. Living with someone for several years before deciding to tie the knot is a good idea. There should be no question at all in your mind though. If you're nervous on your wedding day, you might not be ready. Also, how seriously do you take marriage? You can always get a divorce if it's not a big deal to you.
 
Seriously, wait. I got engaged at 19, but we both knew we had no immediate plans to wed, and just carried on as being engaged.

Now nearly 4 years later, I'm 23, and we split up last week.

I seriously thought she was the one, but I was young and still had so much of my life to experience. Don't throw your life away by doing something that you don't need to just yet.

Remember, no one is forcing you to get married, just yet at least.
 
I'd like to say I'm an expert in this, but I only learned this in a Gender & Sexuality class I took at college last year :p

I think the main problem with debating the psychology or chemistry of love is that there's no catch-all definition of love. It's completely subjective, since what love means to one person won't necessarily be what love means to another. Even two people in a relationship will hardly ever love each other in the exact same way.

I'd say that a lot of people who have been in a relationship for years and years (marriage, long-term relationship, cohabitants, etc.) are either not actually in love, or have at one point fallen out of love and are now able to love each other again. In the case of two people not actually being in love, it could be analogous to the "keeping up with the Joneses" thing, where sex is substituted with love. Almost like a subconscious way of bragging to others about how long you've been in love, if you get what I mean.

In either case, as far as I'm aware it's impossible to be passionately in love, if not in other ways as well, for more than 3-4 years due to brain chemistry. And brain chemistry almost always overrides anything a psychology theory might predict :p
 
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