Man, divorce sucks

[Locust]

I'm 18 and my parents are getting a divorce. I'm glad they choose to wait till now, but it makes me feel antagonistic toward my father. It pisses me off how money is involved and how worried both my parents are about it. It makes them look greedy and selfish. what really gets me is that I don't know what is going to happen. I know I will get through it, i am just worried I will hate my dad.

 

[DreamThrall]

You probably won't understand until you're a bit older... living on your own, or married.... but as shallow as it may sound, money DOES matter. At least when you don't have enough of it. Not having enough money to pay bills is very stressful on a marriage, and in some cases, can break it. I know how you feel, you would like to think that money shouldn't matter as long as there is love, but unfortunately, it ends up being a bit more complicated than that. Good luck to you though, that's some rough times you're heading into :|

 

[gh0st]

my mom and dad divorced when i was 6, my dad died 2 years later of cancer. i'm sure youll be fine, i turned out alright *eye twitch*

 

[[Matt]]

I hate my dad too Nothing wrong with that!

 

[Spartan]

I can't relate to that because when my mom divorced my stepfather, I was reliefed.

 

[Dalamari]

My parents got divorced when I was 7, I was happy that the fighting would stop.

 

[Tinneth]

My parents got divorced just before my 5th birthday. I live with my mum but I see my dad every day after school/college for about 4 hours.

 

[MadHatter]

You probably won't understand until you're a bit older... living on your own, or married.... but as shallow as it may sound, money DOES matter. At least when you don't have enough of it. Not having enough money to pay bills is very stressful on a marriage, and in some cases, can break it. I know how you feel, you would like to think that money shouldn't matter as long as there is love, but unfortunately, it ends up being a bit more complicated than that. Good luck to you though, that's some rough times you're heading into :|

Concurs.

A huge, fat arse portion of divorces are rooted to financial dilemmas.

 

[<RJMC>]

my parents get divorce when I was like 13
and they never told me,they just told me that my mom and me and my brother were going to live in another city cuz my mom get a good job in that city,but time after I discovered by myself that they were divorced

my dad come to my house sometimes,but I cant say that is the best dad in the world even if I still love him

 

[CrazyHarij]

My parents got divorced when I was 5, not really the easiest time in my life, like most people I stayed with my mother while my father has been dancing around around in Stockholm since then, never being really sure where he's around. I can't feel anything but empathy for him, he's having it quite tough. But now he's apparently in a decent job and things are getting better, as for my side my mother married another guy in April with an 18 year old daughter who I actually get on with quite well, I can't complain, it's nice to have a family after all these years.

Ah ****, damn memories this thread had to bring up I miss him.. everytime we meet we have a great time, we have so much in common and he's so intellectual and nice, it really hurts seeing e-mails where he says he's been thinking about me and wanting to see me.. ;(

 

[Dr. Freeman]

You probably won't understand until you're a bit older... living on your own, or married.... but as shallow as it may sound, money DOES matter. At least when you don't have enough of it. Not having enough money to pay bills is very stressful on a marriage, and in some cases, can break it. I know how you feel, you would like to think that money shouldn't matter as long as there is love, but unfortunately, it ends up being a bit more complicated than that. Good luck to you though, that's some rough times you're heading into :|

that is probably the best summation of most divorces which i have seen/heard of... ya know they tell u "love lasts" well thats true partially because its money that makes things work out... love doesn't get u the bills paid and the other neccessities of life.. and this may sound materialistic to some of u, but its the truth.

if anyone here is having a hard time distinguishing between materialistic and just having enough money to get through life.. all u need to do is think of the next bill u need to pay before a date.

 

[Homer]

My parents had the biggest fight of their marrage over thanksgiving while I was home from school. My mom was mad that my dad was making to much pie and taking up half the kitchen while she still needed to make pataoes. She said "He keeps making his stupid pies!" all angry like.

And that was it.

The biggest fight I have ever seen them have.

My family is like something out of a goddamn 50s TV show.

 

[Tr0n]

I'm at my fourth mom right now...so I know the feeling.

 

[Locust]

The one my parents are in isn't about a lack of money, it is about who will get the money. it is based in an affair that my dad had.

 

[Steve]

I understand, dude. My parents divorced when I was 15, and I can't thank them enough for waiting until I was old enough to handle it. Fortunately, my parents were very civil about it, and left lawyers and all that out of it. They also allowed me to stay wherever I wanted to. Stay strong, dude.

 

[The Dark Elf]

I understand, dude. My parents divorced when I was 15, and I can't thank them enough for waiting until I was old enough to handle it. Fortunately, my parents were very civil about it, and left lawyers and all that out of it. They also allowed me to stay wherever I wanted to. Stay strong, dude.

They sound pretty cool, sounds like you were lucky. Shame most can't be like that.

 

[Mattigus]

My girlfriend's parents divorced last year, and she's 17. She wishes that they did it they did it when she was younger, so she didn't have to go through the fights they had constantly. Their divorce was also related to her dad's affairs (six, if I counted right.) My parents haven't divorced, so I really can't relate.

Correct me if I'm wrong, abconnors, but didn't you make the post about how you don't want to go to college cuz you don't want to depend on your folks? I know I said this in the previous post, but believe me, you have to go to college. My girlfriend dislikes her parents a lot, but she knows she has to go if she wants to make something out of herself. Dispite what her relationship is with her parents, she does what she knows is right for her. I dunno if you decided on that college thing yet, but I just wanted to throw that out there.

 

[Locust]

I just hate the person with whom he is having the affair. she sounds like a slut who is just after money. Man she makes me so mad.

 

[Raziaar]

My parents got divorced when I was young young, like 1-2 I think.

 

[CTTcrew_MrBlue]

MY parents got divorced when I was 9, I dont speak to my father anymore and dont want anything to do with him

 

[Gunner]

Wow, seems like most of your parents are divorced. Dark Elf, could you add a poll to this thread? It would be interesting to see what the ratio is.

 

[Farrowlesparrow]

Lots of people I've noticed get divored...it makes you wonder why they got married in the first place. Was it for the right reasons? Or are they simply not sticking it out like they could...maybe its simply ignorance (and I say that innocently, not in a nasty way) of how to keep a marriage together.

Sorry about your parents and what you're going through, like many other things in life, I just hope that one day things like this simply won't be an issue.

 

[The Dark Elf]

I just hate the person with whom he is having the affair. she sounds like a slut who is just after money. Man she makes me so mad.

Remember though, your dad has feelings too, its not always as simple as it seems, it might "look" like its his fault, but perhaps things have gone on that you don't know about, reasons for him to do that.

You might hate him now, but in the end, its better to not get too distant, when your parents are gone, they're gone. Just talk to him in a grown up way and see how he feels, right now your mom has you, but who does he have, other than this girl. He's losing his family and a lot more from this than you and your mom will.

Just spare a thought for the guy, you never know, when your older its likely you'll find yourself in a similar situation, most people are tempted, stress makes it even worse. Have a talk with him and don't hate him for something that could happen to you too, you don't want your future children hating you like you hate him, do you?

Gunner, poll added.

 

[MadHatter]

Vote: Currently in the process of getting divorced.

 

[Gunner]

Thanks TDE, mine are still together but I wouldn't say "happily" hehe.

 

[Murray_H]

Divorced, but with no unhappy smiley

 

[The Dark Elf]

Mine are still together, heaven knows why, all they do is argue, but apparantly they still like each other.

 

[CyberSh33p]

mine are going through the process and I couldn't be happier, the sooner the better I say :|

 

[MadHatter]

Mine are still together, heaven knows why, all they do is argue, but apparantly they still like each other.

That's what mine are like. Except mine have been saying they're going to divorce and have slowly prepared to divorce for the past 5 years or so. They gradually get closer to divorcing by the months and years and they get more and more volatile. Sometimes it's like a half-life... with zero being divorce.

 

[ktimekiller]

aye my mom deviorced and i r 13

 

[Adrien C]

Mine were separating 4 years ago, I was supose go live in England, god damn, it never happend, I wish they had.

 

[Whezzy]

my mom and dad divorced when i was 6, im 14 now they are still in court matters involving money. it sucks...

 

[FictiousWill]

My parents have been married for over 25 years or somesuch number.

 

[Spartan]

That poll is stupid. A divorce isn't always a bad thing, and people aren't always "happily" together.

 

[Whezzy]

yes but alot of times it affects to kids in negitve ways, please think before posting somthing that may offend ppl

 

[oldagerocker]

my parents have been separated and are currently getting divoreced, neither can afford to keep me and my brother in uni And pay the high solicitors fee's.. so i think it's stalled so far. But they are both now allot happier, so it's alright.

 

[marksmanHL2 :)]

My mum and dad were going to get divorced a few years ago but before anything actually went through about it my dad was hit by a car and died.

So yeah.. not all that a fun time for me...


But I'm ok now. Honest..... :rolling:

 

[The Dark Elf]

That poll is stupid. A divorce isn't always a bad thing, and people aren't always "happily" together.

Think it matters? It's just a poll ffs lol.

 

[Phisionary]

It's missing options. My parents were never married.






Of course I could stfu and not post, but that's being unrealistic. :|

 

[Adrien C]

In France they love that, they never marry and have children. kind of weird..