Painful truth, or sugar coated lie?

[lePobz]

So this could apply to dumping your partner, explaining a mishap, letting a mate down, or whatever.

Would you (and do you) give it to them straight, the painful honest truth?

Or, do you sugar coat your reasons, give them white lies that completely evade the truth but don't make them feel as bad?


Give your reasons if you have any, along with any relevant personal instances.

 

[Smoke]

Depends on the subject matter for some people, but I would always want the hard truth.

 

[Sulkdodds]

Er, with me I prefer the painful truth because I prefer to know what people think than be bullshitted around.

But some people don't seem to appreciate it...so it depends on the person.

There's also a big difference between 'the painful truth' and 'being a c*nt about it'. Some people seem to misjudge this crucial distinction.

 

[Beerdude26]

I'm right in the middle. As a devil's advocate, I usually have to settle discussions between two people who are too stubborn to do it themselves or just don't want to. I then have to coochy-coo both parties while at the same time remaining objective and honest to myself and seeping an objective fact into a discussion with one party (I never talk to both at the same time or at least not through the same medium where the other party can here me) once in a while to make them realize how they've acted.

 

[NeptuneUK]

I have been told that I am very 'brutally honest'
When friends want honest opinions, they come to me!

 

[Icarusintel]

Depends on the person and situation. Some people can't handle the truth. Some can't handle certain truths.

I like to be told straight. But I'm very good at sugar-coating things if I need to.

 

[lePobz]

I've just split up with my lass ... and I gave her the painful truth ... I've got feelings for another lass. I'm such an arsehole.

 

[Beerdude26]

I've just split up with my lass ... and I gave her the painful truth ... I've got feelings for another lass. I'm such an arsehole.

Oh, no you aren't. You'd be ten times worse if you didn't tell her and had love behind her back while still lying to her that you love her.

 

[CyberPitz]

I usually sugar coat it, unless it NEEDS to be told straight up.

 

[Sir Phoenixx]

Sugar coated truth.

 

[Smoke]

Wimps.

 

[DeusExMachina]

I like to sugar coat everything.

I also like to lie about my lies.

 

[CyberPitz]

I like to sugar coat everything.

I also like to lie about my lies.

I usually lie just to lie. Especially like when there is NO reason to.

"Why you going to school early?"
*In reality, I'm justs going early to go early...*
"Oh, I got in trouble, so I have to sweep the boys locker room before school..."

 

[AJ Rimmer]

Sugar-coated truth. Of course it depends from person to person and on the situation, but there's no reason to be rude or mean about it. Had this discussion on another forum with a guy who refused to acknowledge that there was any situation where the complete and utter truth was not the way to go. You should be honest with friends, if they ask you to, but no reason to be an ass.

Example:
"Does this shirt look good on me?"
"Not really, you should try something else."

Or:

"Does this shirt look good on me?"
"No, it really brings out your fat body and your ugly-ass face but what the ****, it's not like anything is ever gonna look good on you. At least it's cheap, like you."

 

[Cormeh]

I sugar coat things, but in all honesty it's mostly in fear of damaging myself or my reputation or ego because I'm usually doing things for nasty reasons.

That whole "it's not you, it's me" thing. I'm a bastard.

 

[DeusExMachina]

I usually lie just to lie. Especially like when there is NO reason to.

"Why you going to school early?"
*In reality, I'm justs going early to go early...*
"Oh, I got in trouble, so I have to sweep the boys locker room before school..."

I love lying. It's the only thing I'm good at it.

 

[Krynn72]

Same as AJ. I tell the truth, but sugar coat them just enough to get the point across without telling the "painful" part.

 

[Cole]

Painful Truth by far. Because if everyone sugar coats stuff for you, then eventually your gonna find the truth out for yourself. So why not skip all the mumbo jumbo?

 

[Krynn72]

Sometimes its better to find it out yourself.

 

[Cole]

While at the same time realizing what everybody has been telling you is a lie?

 

[Robbo]

Sugar coat, because it usually means you can finish the conversation quicker and get the hell outer there.

 

[pvtbones]

I prefer to hear the hard honest truth, I like to keep things simple and lies just make things more complicated.

I'm honest but not to the "OMG your such an asshole!" degree.

 

[victor]

a great man once said that the best way to break up with a woman is a swift headbutt to the tits.

the point being, just let your actions do the talking.

 

[lePobz]

a great man once said that the best way to break up with a woman is a swift headbutt to the tits.

the point being, just let your actions do the talking.

Victor by name, Victor by nature.

I guess.

 

[The Monkey]

A combination of the two, but I voted for the latter.

 

[Dinkleberry]

Example of when a Sugar-coated lie is win:
Well, I get some kind of dermatitis/exczma on my hands and a recommended treatment for that is to rub aqueous cream on the problem areas. So I got some of that last summer and tried it only to find it didn't help much at all. I did though find it was a good lubricant for... certain activities. I brought it with me to my new digs and hadn't used it since that time. However, one day my housemate complained of having chapped lips and didn't have any lipsalve or whatever at the time, so he eyed up the cream in the bathroom. I tried to disuade him from the idea with a mild 'I don't think that'll work, mate' but no... he used it.

And of course in this situation there is no harm in NOT telling him the exact details of the history of said product. Ergo, my vote.

 

[Krynn72]

Example of when a Sugar-coated lie is win:
Well, I get some kind of dermatitis/exczma on my hands and a recommended treatment for that is to rub aqueous cream on the problem areas. So I got some of that last summer and tried it only to find it didn't help much at all. I did though find it was a good lubricant for... certain activities. I brought it with me to my new digs and hadn't used it since that time. However, one day my housemate complained of having chapped lips and didn't have any lipsalve or whatever at the time, so he eyed up the cream in the bathroom. I tried to disuade him from the idea with a mild 'I don't think that'll work, mate' but no... he used it.

And of course in this situation there is no harm in NOT telling him the exact details of the history of said product. Ergo, my vote.

I diagree. Sure, the sugar coated lie works at first, but then you need to give him the detailed truth, record it, and upload it to the internets for many lulz. Ultimately, the lulz are what makes the painful truths worth it.

 

[Kula Meenur]

Yeah mate, kinda depends on the situation ay