Putting myself out there

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****, I can't believe i'm asking helplife2.net for relationship advice. I was always one of the people who'd spam the **** out of these threads. Oh well, here goes.

Ok, so i'm just getting over this girl I really liked, and who I THOUGHT felt likewise for me, but I found out was just giving me a shot because everybody was telling her she should go out with me, even though she didn't really feel as strongly for me as I did for her. It ****ing hurt. A lot.

Now I feel like I can't sit on my ass and just wait for a relationship to come to me. That was the closest i've ever come to having something meaningful with a girl, and I failed. Miserably might I add.

How the hell do I put myself out there? I don't think i'm a repulsive person, hell, I think i'm pretty charming. But I just don't know how to put myself into that position again, I don't know how to find somebody meaningful to me, somebody that I feel can comfort me, a person that makes me feel hurt when they've been hurt.

I want to find somebody I can call up at midnight, show up at her house, and just go for a stroll with. Somebody I can just relax in the park with at one in the morning. I don't care if she doesn't have a ferocious tongue, or if she never sleeps with me.

How the hell does a person find something like that? It just feels impossible to me. I came so close, and it felt so good, and now I feel like I need to get there again. I just don't know how.
 
This is somewhat relevant to my interests.

I've just not felt like dealing with girls after I moved and left my last relationship.

It's time to get back out there I suppose...
 
the less you look the more you will find ...seriously no one likes an eager beaver ..unless that beaver is of the human kind
 
well, in my experience you sometimes have to force them to like you. They will eventually stop screaming after a few hours.
 
you need duct tape and a little red ball


see the goal is to make them scream in bed ..and no not the "OMG WTF IS THAT!?!" kind
 
This is like, the third girl-help thread from sinky, isn't it :/
 
Que-Ever said:
This is like, the third girl-help thread from sinky, isn't it :/
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?

No?

The last one was just a story I wrote because I was bored. Granted, the story itself was true, but there's a lot more behind it than me just showing up disappointed at some chick's house.

@ Stern, that's what people have been telling me for so long, that the best way to get what i'm looking for is to do absolutely nothing. I just can't help but get the feeling though that you get what you work for.
 
sinkoman said:
?

No?

The last one was just a story I wrote because I was bored. Granted, the story itself was true, but there's a lot more behind it than me just showing up disappointed at some chick's house.
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K, I just remembered something similar. And then I exaggerated it.
 
The best way to get jiggy wit it is to pull your pance down and shake it, baby.
 
well I'm not saying do nothing ..however if you seem to eager it'll put people off ..just flirt with girls but in a casual way ..just be yourself when it comes to women but if there's a girl you like you should let her know ..flirt, body language, attention ...just dont be a simpering fool like many men and follow her around like a lost puppy ..women dont want men who are easy to get, there must be some challenge or else it's not really worth fighting over
 
Well to be the first serious post in this thread I'd suggest internet dating. Go to some adultfriendfinder website or put up an ad on yahoo for people around your area. I went to a site and put up a profile without a pic and ended up getting a few replies, although it was a swinger site and you have to pay so **** that. Anyways its worth a shot, Ive met interesting people on the net along with a year long relationship at one point. But then again she did block my email and changed her phone number after that year so maybe Im not the person to ask.:laugh:
 
mchammer75040 said:
Well to be the first serious post in this thread I'd suggest internet dating. Go to some adultfriendfinder website or put up an ad on yahoo for people around your area. I went to a site and put up a profile without a pic and ended up getting a few replies, although it was a swinger site and you have to pay so **** that. Anyways its worth a shot, Ive met interesting people on the net along with a year long relationship at one point. But then again she did block my email and changed her phone number after that year so maybe Im not the person to ask.:laugh:
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No.

morechar
 
Haha ouch, thats alot comin out of someone with a hell of alot more posts than me ;). Just kidding, I know what you mean. But how else are you going to do it? Flirting in real life, for me atleast, is the terror inless I know they are into me. Otherwise you end up lookin like a moron.
 
mchammer75040 said:
Haha ouch, thats alot comin out of someone with a hell of alot more posts than me ;). Just kidding, I know what you mean. But how else are you going to do it? Flirting in real life, for me atleast, is the terror inless I know they are into me. Otherwise you end up lookin like a moron.
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Really?

I love flirting with girls. It's a tonne of fun.

My problem is just finding girls to actually try things with. I mean, sure, I know girls I could just try to pull some fun and flirty and meaningless relationship with, but that's not what i'm looking for.

I dunno, maybe i'm being too picky, maybe i'm trying to find something that i'm too young for.
 
Heh, everyone finds themselves on the internet phone to helplife at some point. Finding meaningful relationships regardless of gender is difficult, I suppose. There's only one relationship I've had where I've been able to call her my unconditional friend.

I don't think you're being too picky.

Keep meeting new people, anyway. Best of luck. :)
 
sinkoman said:
Really?

I love flirting with girls. It's a tonne of fun.

My problem is just finding girls to actually try things with. I mean, sure, I know girls I could just try to pull some fun and flirty and meaningless relationship with, but that's not what i'm looking for.

I dunno, maybe i'm being too picky, maybe i'm trying to find something that i'm too young for.
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Well I didnt have a problem when I worked, cause it didnt involve going out. But now talkin to a random person that Im no way involved with, just doesnt do it for me. But yea I guess jondy's right just meeting new people would help.
 
Aww, I know your pain. At this moment in my life I can't seem to and don't really believe in finding a girl as perfect as the one I hoped for a relationship with.
 
Unfocused said:
Aww, I know your pain. At this moment in my life I can't seem to and don't really believe in finding a girl as perfect as the one I hoped for a relationship with.
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I'm wondering if I should just start trying things with girls, just trying the "flirty fun" relationship thing, and seeing if it leads me anywhere.

I figure that if anything i'll meet new people along the way.

Then again, everybody keeps telling me that if you let it be known that you're not just looking for "fun", then the girls who aren't just looking for "fun" know where to turn when they're looking for something serious.

God dammit...
 
pay a girl to start a rumor that you have a big dick and is a god at sex or something. That might turn you into a pussy magnet.
 
show us a picture of you...its no use if your fugly.
 
sinkoman said:
****, I can't believe i'm asking helplife2.net for relationship advice. I was always one of the people who'd spam the **** out of these threads. Oh well, here goes.

Ok, so i'm just getting over this girl I really liked, and who I THOUGHT felt likewise for me, but I found out was just giving me a shot because everybody was telling her she should go out with me, even though she didn't really feel as strongly for me as I did for her. It ****ing hurt. A lot.

Now I feel like I can't sit on my ass and just wait for a relationship to come to me. That was the closest i've ever come to having something meaningful with a girl, and I failed. Miserably might I add.

How the hell do I put myself out there? I don't think i'm a repulsive person, hell, I think i'm pretty charming. But I just don't know how to put myself into that position again, I don't know how to find somebody meaningful to me, somebody that I feel can comfort me, a person that makes me feel hurt when they've been hurt.

I want to find somebody I can call up at midnight, show up at her house, and just go for a stroll with. Somebody I can just relax in the park with at one in the morning. I don't care if she doesn't have a ferocious tongue, or if she never sleeps with me.

How the hell does a person find something like that? It just feels impossible to me. I came so close, and it felt so good, and now I feel like I need to get there again. I just don't know how.
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yea that same exact situation happened to me last year. I eventually got over it although it took me a few months...but really, the best thing to do is to make friends with girls. Get comfortable with them then when you feel a connection just ask her out for lunch casually (not dinner cuz that's too obvious). From there you'll laugh, talk and flirt. She will have a really good time and so will you. After a few times like this you guys will see a connection with eachother and eventually go out.

Only problem is finding someone...it's best if you're in school. Easiest way to meet a girl.
 
Ravioli said:
pay a girl to start a rumor that you have a big dick and is a god at sex or something. That might turn you into a pussy magnet.
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Funny story actually.

I can't see purple. Now, while me and my friends were dicking around, they were egging me on, "pop out your dick, whip it out, bla bla bla".

I knew they thought i'd never do it, so I did it, just to scare the shit out of them.

Now, I always thought I had a smallish dick. Not tiny, but a grower, if you know what I mean.

So I bust the ****er out, and my friend's eyes go bug, and they scream. I pop him back into his hole, laughing, and somebody goes.

"HOLY SHIT! IT'S ****ING HUGE!!!!!!!!!"

I go "What?"

"AND IT'S ****ING PURPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!"

So now they call me Barney the dinosaur, because apparently I have a huge purple dick. And now they're telling people, lots of people.

My good friend's sister already knows (her friends are freaking FINE), and I think they've already told some other chicks, because I heard them joking around about it at the beach yesterday.

But yeah, as I said, i'm not interested in copious amounts of pussy. I want a relationship, could care less if I NEVER get laid atm.

AKIRA said:
yea that same exact situation happened to me last year. I eventually got over it although it took me a few months...but really, the best thing to do is to make friends with girls. Get comfortable with them then when you feel a connection just ask her out for lunch casually (not dinner cuz that's too obvious). From there you'll laugh, talk and flirt. She will have a really good time and so will you. After a few times like this you guys will see a connection with eachother and eventually go out.

Only problem is finding someone...it's best if you're in school. Easiest way to meet a girl.
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Well, i'm in school. Problem is though that i'm actually a quiet guy. Not a loner by any means, but i'm not the person you see chatting it up in the middle of class and being a fuggin clown. I know my friends, and I stick to them.

Now that you mention it though, I know of a few girls here and there that piqued my interest, that i'm sure I could get closer too if I just play my cards correctly. Just got a figure out a way to start talking to them without coming across as a creep.
 
Solaris said:
I've Pmed you advice.
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Yeah, sure, "advice"

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I went to my 18th birthday party with hopes of finding a really slutty drunk girl and enjoying myself (what an awful attitude to have) but I ended the evening with the girl that I realised I had liked for ages but never thought I had a chance with. And I'm with her now. And I love her. And it's amazing.


Just goes to show that love arrives at the oddest times and that you shouldn't go out searching for it, you should let it come to you. Or do go out searching but get so drunk that you can't remember how you started talking to the girl you end up falling in love with. :cheese:
 
CptStern said:
the less you look the more you will find ...seriously no one likes an eager beaver ..unless that beaver is of the human kind
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Thats what ive been doing, and its worked for me!


Oh wait... no, no it hasnt.
 
Reginald said:
I went to my 18th birthday party with hopes of finding a really slutty drunk girl and enjoying myself (what an awful attitude to have) but I ended the evening with the girl that I realised I had liked for ages but never thought I had a chance with. And I'm with her now. And I love her. And it's amazing.


Just goes to show that love arrives at the oddest times and that you shouldn't go out searching for it, you should let it come to you. Or do go out searching but get so drunk that you can't remember how you started talking to the girl you end up falling in love with. :cheese:
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****........

I've been sitting on my ass and just waiting for somebody to come by in my day to day social life for 2 years now, and i've gotten ONE result. Dunno how many years more I can wait before I kill myself.

Btw, should I shave the stache?

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NO!!!!...do NOT get a stache you will only look like a 14 yr old kid going through puberty or look like a dirty sanchez..NO to stache seriously.
 
AKIRA said:
NO!!!!...do NOT get a stache you will only look like a 14 yr old kid going through puberty or look like a dirty sanchez..NO to stache seriously.
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I was asking if I should get rid of it actually, for that very reason :P
 
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