Grandma is dead

[mchammer75040]

;(
Not much to say, but we just got the call from the nurse saying she was gone about 15 minutes ago. I remember writing a thread asking everyone what you guys will do when you lose a loved one, which got typical "slap you in the face with my cock lol" responses but now I get to see for myself what its like. Add to the fact that I lived with her makes it even harder for me to not see her in her chair everyday. Anyone lose anyone lately?

 

[VirusType2]

Yeah, I lost my Granddad and Grandmother recently. I wasn't that close, but my mom was very upset. I'm very sorry for your loss.

My other 2 grandparents are in their 90's, so ...

 

[repiV]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My mum died on Thursday, but I'm not sure if anything I could say regarding my experiences would be particularly helpful to you as we all deal with things in our own way.
It's a process. You have to adjust to life without her, come to terms with the loss and then move on with your life. That process could take weeks or years, but ultimately time heals all wounds.

 

[taviow]

I'm sorry for you ;(

I lost my grandfather some months ago... strangely, I didn't feel anything about it, I got totally over it and never thought about it again until you reminded me of him... I'm not sure why I can't feel anything for him... Many people around me were so sad and cried so much when he died while I didn't feel anything at all.
But my grandma... she is about to die too... I'm very sad that it's going to happen soon ;(

 

[mchammer75040]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My mum died on Thursday, but I'm not sure if anything I could say regarding my experiences would be particularly helpful to you as we all deal with things in our own way.
It's a process. You have to adjust to life without her, come to terms with the loss and then move on with your life. That process could take weeks or years, but ultimately time heals all wounds.

Wait, you lost you're mom last thursday? Hell why didn't you make a thread, my situation is nothin compared to yours...how in the hell do you deal with it? I cant imagine the huge whole that will leave in my life.

eah, I lost my Granddad and Grandmother recently. I wasn't that close, but my mom was very upset. I'm very sorry for your loss.

My other 2 grandparents are in their 90's, so ...

I lost my grandfather some months ago... strangely, I didn't feel anything about it, I got totally over it and never thought about it again until you reminded me of him... I'm not sure why I can't feel anything for him... Many people around me were so sad and cried so much when he died while I didn't feel anything at all.
But my grandma... she is about to die too... I'm very sad that it's going to happen soon

Why weren't you guys close to you're grandparent(s)? I guess I'm not really too close to my grandpa but thinking of not seeing my grandma hurts like nothin else..

..ugh I have to go to bed, gotta get up early so I'll reply to all of you soon...

 

[Raziaar]

I'm sorry for your loss, but revel in the fact that she enjoyed a full life.

 

[Dekstar]

My mate's grandmother died recently (like in this last week). Apparently she sat down with a cup of tea, fell asleep, and just didn't wake up.

He hasn't been online for a few days and I'm stuck in uni so I can't see him, see how he's doing.

 

[repiV]

Wait, you lost you're mom last thursday? Hell why didn't you make a thread, my situation is nothin compared to yours...how in the hell do you deal with it? I cant imagine the huge whole that will leave in my life.

I did. It's down near the bottom of the page.
I'm coping well enough. This thread is about you though. Like I said, we all deal with things in our own way. It's a completely individual thing and you don't need to compare your loss to anyone else's.

Why weren't you guys close to you're grandparent(s)? I guess I'm not really too close to my grandpa but thinking of not seeing my grandma hurts like nothin else..

..ugh I have to go to bed, gotta get up early so I'll reply to all of you soon...

I only have one living grandparent...for me I guess it's an age thing. My dad's mum died long before I was born, his dad died when I was three years old and I only have one memory of him, and my mum's dad died when I was seven. I wasn't really old enough to know any of them.
And for the most part I can't stand my nan; she thinks she has the right to tell me what to do, how to live my life and how much salt I can put on my food, criticises me and my brother at every opportunity, right down to having a go at me whenever I ask someone to do something for me because of my broken leg (even if it's just carrying a glass from one room to another). Not that I wish ill on her or anything of the sort, but I can't imagine my reaction to her passing would go much beyond "well, damn".

 

[SamuraiKenji]

Im sorry to hear that
I lost my grandfather recently as well

 

[Robert-]

Aww man, I'm sorry.

 

[Moto]

I lost my Papa (Grandfather) last October. I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[soulslicer]

Shit man. Feel really sorry for both Repiv and Mchammer. The most important thing to do is just to leave behind the past, know that death is part and parcel of life, and just move on.

 

[Acepilotf14]

I'm sorry for you..
my great grandparents are in their 90's now, and close to death.. my great grandpa just got loads of cancer surgery on his face. 'Tis sad.

 

[Geogaddi]

im soryy for your lots

 

[TheDude]

I'm soryy for you're lots.

 

[mastag]

My condolences.

 

[Saturos]

My grandma that lives in Las Vegas is not long for this world either. She was diagnosed with two forms of cancer. Both a malignant growth in her neck ( I forget what it is exactly) and lung cancer...and she still smokes. Even while in hospice care. She's a stubborn one though. Always has been. She refuses to give up life or smoking.

My family that lives out there is having a hard time trying to adapt with these difficulties, and my uncle that lives with her and took care of here is about to be homeless if he doesn't do something quick. It's a really bad situation.

 

[mchammer75040]

First off, thanks to all of you.

I did. It's down near the bottom of the page.
I'm coping well enough. This thread is about you though. Like I said, we all deal with things in our own way. It's a completely individual thing and you don't need to compare your loss to anyone else's.

I only have one living grandparent...for me I guess it's an age thing. My dad's mum died long before I was born, his dad died when I was three years old and I only have one memory of him, and my mum's dad died when I was seven. I wasn't really old enough to know any of them.
And for the most part I can't stand my nan; she thinks she has the right to tell me what to do, how to live my life and how much salt I can put on my food, criticises me and my brother at every opportunity, right down to having a go at me whenever I ask someone to do something for me because of my broken leg (even if it's just carrying a glass from one room to another). Not that I wish ill on her or anything of the sort, but I can't imagine my reaction to her passing would go much beyond "well, damn".

Ah hell dude after reading you're thread I cant even begin to imagine, but I can definitely relate to the desire to want to tell someone how much they mean to you. I was always too stupid to spend the time with my grandma I could have, and then suddenly she was gone. We actually don't even know what it is, even after spending a week in the hospital doing spinal taps and damn near everything else theres still no clue as to what happened.

From your thread:

At the end of the day, death is the only guarantee in life. I've got it pretty damn easy really, kids in Africa no doubt lose their parents at a much younger age in much more tragic circumstances, with very little support.
It's hard to see the sense in it all though. It's like someone just rolled the dice and decided she was going to suffer and die. There's no rhyme or reason behind it; it just is. Times like this really make you think about whether there's any kind of afterlife. It'd be nice to think she's sitting with her brother and father, waiting for when the rest of the family comes to join them. Consciousness doesn't make any sense to me on a purely physical level, so who knows

Yea, and just to think about how trivial, short, and brutal all those lives are in africa makes me realize how lucky we really are but in that light it seems pointless to believe in an afterlife. Like you said, We'll never see them again thats it.

My grandma that lives in Las Vegas is not long for this world either. She was diagnosed with two forms of cancer. Both a malignant growth in her neck ( I forget what it is exactly) and lung cancer...and she still smokes. Even while in hospice care. She's a stubborn one though. Always has been. She refuses to give up life or smoking.

My family that lives out there is having a hard time trying to adapt with these difficulties, and my uncle that lives with her and took care of here is about to be homeless if he doesn't do something quick. It's a really bad situation.

Wow thats incredible that shes even still alive, go spend time with her don't make the mistake I did. Are you two close?

 

[Emporius]

There isn't really anything else that I can say that hasn't already been said, but I'm very sorry for all of your losses, and I think I speak for the forum when I say we're here for you.

On a side note I would like to build on what Raziaar said about remembering the joyful lives they both lead. Many cultures treat funerals not as a time to grieve, but as a celebration of the achievements and the life of the person

 

[Sulkdodds]

I hope she had a good life. I feel that's the best thing I can say.

im [truley] soryy for your lots

oh rofl, I'm very glad you posted this and looked potentially inappropriate, so that I didn't have to.

 

[Deleted member 56031]

I'm sorry for your loss

 

[NeptuneUK]

Sorry man, death seems to be everywhere I look for some reason at this point in time : S