My grandmother passed away today at 77.

[Saturos]

Does anyone have any grandparents whom you've never met, wanted to meet, has talked via phone before, or promised to meet in person one day? I have, and it seems I'll never get to meet her now like I wanted to one day. She was a great person even though I've never seen her in person. Every time I talked to her via phone, she was always so talkative and cheery. For the record, I've also never met my grandfather who lived with her either. he passed away in 1994 due to lung cancer.

She lived in Las Vegas with my unemployed uncle, and was always so concerned with her family that she feared leaving them behind. She finally came to accept her dilemma and realized there was nothing else the doctors could do for her, despite her will to live. She had two different forms of cancer, (a malignant growth on her heart and her neck) Though I think she may finally be at peace now. My mother, who went to visit her a week ago, and her three sisters and two brothers who all went to her side gave her comfort in her time in need and gave her reassurance that everything would come together, and that everyhting would indeed be ok.

I just hope now that all her troubles are past and everything will indeed be ok. If anyone has any grandparents whom you never met, by all means, go ASAP and meet them. It's a crappy thing to experience knowing the only reason why it isn't possible was because of some stupid Earthly thing like money or distance. You may have a friend you wished you could have been with before.

Rest in peace grandma. It seems as if though I've known you for so long, and yet at the same time, we've never met.

 

[Slug Advisor]

Woah, I'm so sorry. One of my grandfathers passed away before I was born, and the other a few years ago. My grandmas are still alive. Sorry man.

 

[Eejit]

My condolences.

 

[Ravioli]

sorry for your loss. Dont blame yourself that you didnt meet her though, theres nothing that could of been done about it.

My grandma died some months ago, i only met her twice. When i was a young baby and when i was about 15. I didnt know her a lot so it didnt hit me so hard when she died, but ofcorse i wish id knew her better.

 

[dfc05]

Sorry to hear that. I guess I've always taken it for granted that most of my family all lives in the same city. I never met either of my grandfathers, but they died before I was born.

 

[Saturos]

Thanks everyone. Yeah, I have friends whose entire family lives in one house even. They may argue alot amonst themselves, but then they know that my entire family actually lives miles apart. Makes them think you know? We've always have had a closely knit family despite distance, and many people in our community thinks were so odd because of it. Family values is a dying commodity in our world it seems.

People say it must be the "Italian" (mother's side) and "U.S. Southern" (father's side) blood in us. BTW, it was my mom's mother that passed.

 

[CyberPitz]

I had a grandfather pass away that I met just a couple of times. I never felt any sorrow or anything from the death. I guess I'm just an asshole or something.

 

[Pulse]

Condolences man, good luck to you and your family.

 

[Saturos]

I had a grandfather pass away that I met just a couple of times. I never felt any sorrow or anything from the death. I guess I'm just an asshole or something.

Nah, some people just express their emotions differently than others do. I too can't remember the last time I cried over anything tbh, despite loving my family and all.

I could probably count on one hand the number of times I cried in my entire life, doesn't mean I'm affected any less though.

 

[Felix]

Sorry to hear that! I work part time in an old people's home and it's always tough for the staff and families when the residents pass away, two died just last week.

My Grandma died in simliar circumstances, so don't feel too bad. She had an argument with her husband, they didn't forgive each other and when she went asleep, she never woke up afterwards. My poor Grandad was just totally devastated that he never had the chance to say sorry.

 

[CyberPitz]

Nah, some people just express their emotions differently than others do. I too can't remember the last time I cried over anything tbh, despite loving my family and all.

I could probably count on one hand the number of times I cried in my entire life, doesn't mean I'm affected any less though.

It's not th at I didn't cry, it's that I really didn't...for lack of a better word..care.

 

[taviow]

I had a grandfather pass away that I met just a couple of times. I never felt any sorrow or anything from the death. I guess I'm just an asshole or something.

This. My grandfather passed away around 2 years ago, and I... I didn't really feel anything.
I had met him very few times, he was a nice guy. When he passed away I was like "oh... that's... horrible" *life goes on normally like nothing happened*. People around me cried all day and I really... didn't care much. I feel bad for being like that.

I'm sorry for your loss

 

[Crash]

My best to you, Saturos , in all that you are dealing with...

 

[Mellish]

Sorry man. I never met one of my grandpas due to him being a drunk. My mum and grandmother weren't speaking to him. Then he died and I've always regreted never visiting him. God I feel awful.

 

[Que-Ever]

Relatives dying sucks real bad. Sorry.

*waites for solaris to come say something stupid*

 

[Bad^Hat]

I've had two grandparents pass away and it looks like another one might be on their way now (in a nursing home with dementia), not an easy thing to cope with, but I can't relate to not having met them as we've always been close to them as a family. I can imagine that'd make it a bit more complex to deal with emotionally, but try to discard any guilt you might be feeling as she definitely wouldn't want you to feel that way. At least you tried to get to know her, even if not in person, and that's definitely something. Hang in there, man.

 

[Dodo]

My condolences dude : |

-dodo

 

[Deleted member 56031]

My condolences

 

[Raziaar]

You have my condolences...

why is everybody else saying that? Must just be a common thing to say in situations like these.

 

[Atomic_Piggy]

Unlucky

I only knew my grandfather. All the others passed away before my birth.

 

[VirusType2]

I keep meaning to do or say something nice to my fathers parents, but I am so busy, and I don't really know what to say. They are in their 90's, so I better think fast. I could get a phone call today.

My mother's parents died recently, and if I ever think of something I want to talk to them about, I can't. My grandmom was here, and she was dying, and everyone knew it. And I wanted to talk to her about THAT, but I didn't want to speak of death, because I didn't know if I wasn't supposed to, and I didn't want her to be sad about it, or remind her.

I wanted to know

How does it feel, are you scared, do you think I don't care, why do we die, where do we go, did you have a good life, is it too hard to talk about this? Is there anything you want to tell me? Is there some secrets to life you want to share?

at least I still had some of the stuff she gave me as gifts when I was a little kid. I even had the blanket she made for me when I was a baby, and I showed it to her. She was really glad to see these things. It meant a lot to her.



I'm really sorry Saturos. Please don't feel bad.

 

[highlander]

My condolences

 

[99.vikram]

What's wrong with some of you people? I meet my grandparents once a year or so, but really how hard is it to take a flight to meet your grandparents once a year??

 

[Druckles]

I wrote something about one of my own Grandparents in a response to something Darkseid said. I never posted it, though, and I'm not sure why. I still have it here, saved in a text file among the other many files.

;(

 

[mchammer75040]

I remember you posting about this in my thread about my grandmother passing away, I'm sorry to hear this. That really sucks that you didn't even get to see her once in your whole freakin life, I can't imagine what my life would be if I hadn't lived with my grandma up until her death. My grandmother was 8 years younger than yours when she passed away, she didn't do so much as have a drink in her entire life but she died young compared to your grandmother.

 

[nurizeko]

We cannot know what lies beyond, if anything, but either way, her pain is over.


Sucks you never got to meet her, I never really knew any of my grandparents either.

They are all gone.

 

[The Monkey]

Why didn't you visit her? Was it that hard to travel to Las Vegas? Or was there some tension in the family?

 

[kattmat]

My condolences to you. My own grandmother passed away in cancer today, so I understand you somewhat I guess.

 

[highlander]

Kattmatt, that sucks, did she go peacefully?

 

[Bad^Hat]

Condolences to kattmat aswell. Cancer's what got my nan, wasn't a quick process either.

ITT, old people die.

 

[repiV]

Sorry to hear that, man. On the plus side, it would be harder on you if you had known her better.

 

[Saturos]

Sorry to hear that, man. On the plus side, it would be harder on you if you had known her better.

Thanks repiV. I hope you're coping well with your mum's death and all too. My bests to you.

Everyone else too. Thanks.

Why didn't you visit her? Was it that hard to travel to Las Vegas? Or was there some tension in the family?

Money and distance about sums it up tbh. Flying is expensive nowadays and not to mention intrusive too. Anal cavity searches anyone? :|
I'm sick of the whole, "freedom isn't free" BS tbh too with airlines. We should be able to fly without being forced to strip down to our underwear. Which is where it's probably heading one day.

Security Guard: "Sir, take off YOUR PANTS!"

Me: "What? Dude, I'm just going to visit my terminally ill grand mot"

Security Guard: "That's it!" *Security guard tackles me, and snatches off my pants as well as my teeth fillings/crowns with plyers.*

On this note, I hate airports with a passion. They scare me. So full of....idiots. :| Not to mention the potentially misplaced luggage due to some incompetent luggage handler too. /facepalm

If I had money to spend on gas, as well as the time, I would have driven there one day with some friends fs though. I wouldn't have minded road tripping there.
She loved to gamble too. I would have enjoyed spending the evening with family and friends while hitting the tables.

 

[kattmat]

Condolences to kattmat aswell. Cancer's what got my nan, wasn't a quick process either.

ITT, old people die.

Thank you. While she did die peacefully it came as a real surprise. She was much better and she had even been able to return home and live a somewhat normal life. Then it happened in an hour, I wasn't able to get there before she lost consciousness. While it's true old people die have a tendency to die, it's never easy if you've known them your entire life.